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Etiquette, Boundaries and Consent

Before booking please consider the following

Etiquette 

  • A free telephone consultation of up to 20 minutes is available for the purpose of assessing whether we can effectively work together before booking an appointment.

  • The number of sessions required (if more than one) will be discussed and estimated as a part of the free initial consultation

  • Booking an appointment will always require an upfront deposit of £50 payable by bank transfer or Paypal. Please see the Cancellation and Postponement Policy on the Bookings page.

  • Please arrive as close to your appointment time as possible for a smooth start and finish.

  • Please contact me if you are running late. I will try to allow the full time if you do arrive late but some sessions may need to end on time.

  • Calls from no ID or international numbers cannot be answered, please contact me by email.

Boundaries and Consent

  • I am passionate about creating a place where not only are your boundaries respected but you are actively encouraged to learn more about and empower yourself to know and exercise choice with your ‘yes’ and your ‘no’.

  • All touch is for you and is entirely focused on you and your experience.

  • Work together may include some foundational work around the Wheel of Consent, a tool developed by Dr Betty Martin aimed at empowering individuals and practitioners in understanding and practicing healthier boundaries and consent.

  • You, as the client are fully empowered to work within the level of touch with which you are comfortable and I recognise and honour that this may be different session by session and moment by moment.

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Professional Statement for people I already know

Providing bodywork to people in the conscious sexuality, kink, LGBTQI and tantra communities, when I am involved as I am, raises questions about professional boundaries. In these comparatively small communities it may not be possible to uphold the strict separation between professional and personal/community life that is desired and usually afforded to clients who do not know me before working together. During the course of our professional relationship, it is likely that you as the client and myself as the practitioner will see each other, or bump into each other; perhaps at a party, workshop, festival, dance or other gathering. And so there is a need to be clear about ethical practice, boundaries and confidentiality in these circumstances.

Confidentiality:

  • All of the usual safeguards for confidentiality and secure record keeping will be strictly adhered to.

  • Every client will receive, as required, a statement about their rights to confidentiality, as well as identifying the few exceptions that may not apply under the law.

  • What happens in the course of professional interactions, will not be shared with anyone else, without a signed release of information from you or in the unlikely instances as required in law or by court order.

  • I will not out anyone's interests, activities or even presence at events and gatherings to anyone.

  • If we meet in public, I will take my cue from how you acknowledge me, and/or what we have talked about and agreed upon. Otherwise, I may make eye contact, smile or nod, but not go beyond that. However, if you identify me to others by the way we work together, I will still not talk about what we have or are working on.

Friends and Acquaintances:

  • If we know each other as good friends, it is unlikely that I will take you on as a paying client. However, I would be happy to have a coffee, as friends and talk.

  • If we are casual acquaintances, but do not know each other well, it may be appropriate to work together as practitioner and client. We will need to discuss and agree the implications of working together before our professional engagement begins.

  • In the distance between good friends and casual acquaintances we would need to take time to discuss how a professional relationship may or may not work.

  • And I am happy to refer you to a suitable colleague if any overlap or complications can be foreseen

If you are considering working with me and want to clarify how that would look, please get in touch by email at sian@creativesexuality.co.uk