Sexuality and pleasure: why do they matter?

Sex coaching remains a taboo subject, shrouded in disapproval and misunderstanding. So why would anyone be brave enough to consider it?

Intimacy coaching matters because we all want loving connection, beauty, and recognition in our lives. We want to love and be loved, but to achieve that we must believe we’re worthy of accepting and giving love on a level that goes beyond sex.

Marriage breakdowns and relationship problems are so commonplace that it’s easy to get despondent; easier for men to retreat to their sheds or computers or mountain bikes, and for women to switch off and seek solace in friends, soft furnishings, the bottom of a bottle or a spiritual path, and believe there are no conscious men out there.

Sound familiar?

It doesn't have to be this way. Through sex and pleasure coaching, we can reconnect with each other, ask for connection, and build trust.

Everyday intimacy is the piece of the jigsaw I’m passionate about. I love learning about connection through touch and talk, and how we can be authentic in what we say and do, and how we respond to our lovers, partners and friends.

In my work as a sex and intimacy teacher, I’ve noticed that we often don’t know what’s possible, and the more we commit to finding out what we like and don’t like, the more trusting, loving, accepting we become.

Women feel safer to open up knowing that it’ll be received with tenderness and without being shamed, and men love it when they get more clues about what women want as it takes the pressure off them.

When men give us women more feedback about their wiser emotions and desires, we can each give and receive the affection and touch we’re all longing for.

Ask what you’d like to receive. It sounds simple, yet it's tough for everyone. If you take the time and commit to working out what it is, embrace ideas and seek support in exploring your sexuality, then your confidence will increase.

Taking responsibility for knowing ourselves deeply is a fine balance of self-interest and altruism. But by learning about relaxing into real pleasure, rather than imaginary pleasure, we can help ourselves and our loved ones feel at ease.

On this blog, I'll be sharing insights into the challenges faced by men and women that lead them to sex and intimacy coaching, and revealing some of the most powerful approaches to transforming the way we connect with each other.